Bow Ties Should be a Little Crooked
Crooked or Perfect
A few days ago, I posted this picture to the Facebook and Google+ pages for this site, and I’ve found that — at least for me — posting pictures is one of the best ways to get people to respond to my postings (that’s “engagement” for marketing peeps). While people commented that they love the bow tie look, some people mentioned that it is a bit crooked.
Oh no! As the Aficionado, did I somehow commit a neckwear faux paus?
I quickly defended myself by referencing GQ, which declared that when it comes to these types of ties, it is both expected and preferred for them to appear a little floppy and off kilter.
When it comes to men’s fashion, GQ is authoritative. Granted, there’s certainly fashion experts that may not completely agree with the magazine, but the publication is very influential when it comes to fashion.
As I’ve explained here on this blog, I conjecture that this preference and expectation for imperfect alignment is that one of the major components of a superb sense of fashion is confidence. If one feels secure with their sartorial decisions, they will not fixate on their wardrobe.
This takes me back several years when in some parts of the United States it was trendy for guys to spend a long time styling their hair to give their hairdo the appearance that they didn’t spend time on it. This is the spiky look that required a lot of hair product like gel, cream, and wax to achieve this look. It did look good on some guys, but it is kind of silly when considering the whole concept behind the style. Is there a such thing as perfect messiness?
One thing that this hair style signals is that the dude donning it fixates on his appearance. You have no idea how many times I spied guys checking and primping their dos throughout the day. Such concern can serve as a distraction to the fashion statement they’re trying to make.
Likewise, a perfectly aligned bow tie can indicate that one is too concerned about wearing it. Why wear it if it isn’t perfectly situated under one’s chin? That’s not confidence, and to wear one when longer neckwear is the norm, requires one to project comfort with their decision.
For me that’s a major reason why other fashion experts (as well as I) prefer it when men tie their own bow ties. Sporting the look should require some investment in learning how to put one on properly, and as humans, we’re not perfect — hence, a little crookedness. Besides, someone responded to the Facebook post by stating:
I heard someone say, if you tie them a little crooked you won’t get questions about whether they are real or pre-tied clip ons.
I don’t want people to even think that I didn’t tie it myself.
This isn’t a License for Sloppiness
Although floppiness is ok, don’t forget to look nice. An occasional check in the mirror should occur. However, remember that the worst enemy of good is perfection.
Perfection requires fixation, and fretting (people will notice even if they don’t catch you checking and adjusting) can easily lead people to believe that one is obsessed — not confident.